Possibly the most insane thing anyone has ever said to me, ever.

Everyone in their twenties has a friend like this. Let’s call him G.

He was an old school mate of The Dude’s, a triple-threat geek, and let’s say he had some… issues. He was that friend you tell stories about years later: “Do you remember that time G accused me of cheating at UNO?”

(True story.)

G was exasperated by many things.

One of them was my approach to Tekken. Since this was back in my nascent days of transitioning from gamer girlfriend to gamer, I was not very good at Tekken. I certainly wasn’t much good at it compared to G, who played all the time.

So I did what many a game-playing n00b has done, and tried out the classic Frantic Button Mashing Technique. Mostly, this lead to my defeat: I certainly had no capacity to remember which button would block my opponent’s attacks.

But sometimes, I would pull out some epic up-down-up-down-A-B-A-B combo that would eviscerate my opponent.

And that’s when G said it.

One of the first things I did when we got settled in the new house (and had a firm date for the Internet to get turned on) was to buy the latest World of Warcraft expansion pack.

And one of the very first things I did when the modem lights started announcing the connection was live was to install it.

I logged in with audible squealing and an enthusiastic welcome back from the guild of folks I used to raid with three times a week. “Welcome back,” they said. “You better level up your character fast so you can raid with us again.”

G got exasperated with The Dude, too.

The Dude was playing Gran Turismo, with his best epic-hairpin-at-the-end-of-a-straight screechy turny sound effects.

He was upgrading his car when G had something to say. “You shouldn’t use the Supra, you should use the Nissan Skyline. It’s a better car.”

“But I like the Supra. And I just won.”

“You would have won faster with the Skyline.”

And then he said it.

I finally got a nice long uninterrupted stretch of time to play WoW in. I logged in, all ready to complete quests, kill monsters, and upgrade all my gear. Level 90, here I come!

Then I found the pet battles. This is a new feature, and is essentially Pokémon as imagined by Tolkien on acid. We’ve been able to collect pets in the game since the beginning, and I’ve collected Many Of Them, but this is the first time it’s been possible to make them fight, and actively collect new pets.

I promptly abandoned my epic world-saving quests in favour of beating up squirrels with a floating skull.

Many hours later The Dude caught up with me and made fun of me. “Collecting all the Pokeymans, huh. Aren’t you supposed to be saving the world?”

I laughed, ignored him, and went back to trying to catch a rare Small Frog.

I liked playing with G’s Warhammer 40K army.

I liked the stories about Space Marines and cryogenic Emperors and blood for the Blood God.

But I wouldn’t actually play the game, which was much more math than I was willing to enjoy. Instead I’d paint my one Chaos Warrior and call him Goatdude, and tell stories about him and his friends.

You could see G thinking it.

Yesterday, we were talking about WoW and The Dude said, “I’m glad you’re enjoying the game so much. I’m not going to say what G would say.”

“What would that have been?”

“You’re having fun wrong!”

We laughed together. Yep, that’s exactly what he would have said.

That poor, miserable, son of a bitch.

It’s not just early-twenties Friends With Issues that have this problem.

I’ve seen business owners throw the same you’re-doing-it-WRONG tantrum when their buyers find uses for their work they never expected, and when the buyers themselves are people they don’t expect.

Sometimes, this anger is justified: I know I’d be pissed and taking major action if a group of neo-Nazis decided to buy my products.

But most often it makes as much sense as G, and his belief that we were having fun wrong.

Are there ever times when you should insist that people are doing it wrong? Tell me in the comments.

photo by: Rad Jose

6 thoughts on “Possibly the most insane thing anyone has ever said to me, ever.

  1. When someone is playing in a way that could cause actual harm to themselves or others.

    Past that… congratulate them on their inventiveness and Forward! :>

    (Not always the easiest thing to do. Helps to remember the ‘best compliment to the teacher is when the student surpasses them’ line. :> )

    P.S. Not sure what you COULD do about the hypothetical neo-Nazis. In your community, yes! Evict at once, that sort of thing. But for a product???


    I can understand not wanting the money, or for you & your work to be associated with such thinking, but what can one really do in such a case? Honest Q for you. :>

    1. Good question! For the people who have already bought, possibly not very much – you might be able to do a refund and return. For future neo-Nazis, I’d work to adjust the marketing QUICK SMART to discourage them from buying in future.

  2. Reads to me as though G was playing another game, one that would let him win even when he lost. You might have beaten him, but you still had to Bow to His Superior Knowledge. (Mate, if you’re so clever, how come YOU didn’t take the Supra?)

    Or maybe it’s not that you were having fun wrong. Maybe the real problem would have been revealed if you subtracted “wrong” from the sentence.

    I know a mate of mine and I felt a little like that when my wife called her Wookie first mate in our Star Wars RPG campaign, “Fyrecracca.” God, did we need the stupid kicked out of us. I mean, how the hell do you take Star Wars seriously?! Yet we did.

    Oh, and can I just say: Goatdude? Sweet! Reminds me of my never-realised idea to take three Beastmen miniatures, put microphones in their hands, whack them on a stage with a Chaos Marine DJ and call them the…

    Yeah, probably a good thing I don’t have the patience to paint minis, let alone customise them.

    But aside from that, Birdy summed it up. If you honestly believe that what someone is doing is going to lead to them damaging someone else or themselves, yeah. If not… maybe you say, “Dude – I’d love to see how much faster you do that track in the Supra! You’d lap me in no time!”

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